tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post1207535795748539030..comments2024-03-27T05:29:09.185+00:00Comments on Grumpy Old Ken: On Counselling.Grumpy Old Kenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17828200865710133059noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-1121415770027222222010-06-21T00:28:47.797+01:002010-06-21T00:28:47.797+01:00The minister at a church I used to attend once sa...The minister at a church I used to attend once said that the problem with counselling is it focuses too much on the past, and encourages people to dwell on their problems.<br /><br />I agree.<br /><br />On the other hand, my father saw some horrible things during WWII and was haunted by them, more and more, as he aged, especially in the few months leading up to his death (at the ripe old age of 87). If there was anything that could have helped him wipe out, or at least tame, those images, that might have been worthwhile.Jeanne Estridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13096521122802823385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-78972211741552559962010-06-12T15:05:56.801+01:002010-06-12T15:05:56.801+01:00Belated comments for unforseen circumstances. Than...Belated comments for unforseen circumstances. Thanks for all your viewpoints, agreeing with me or otherwise. Part of this 'scene' is an age thing. we oldies were brought up in different times and it shows. I still reckon councelling in general has problems and it shows. which must be irritating for those well trained and well established. And there you have it. It all helps to make the world go round.Grumpy Old Kenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17828200865710133059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-1135925134728188852010-06-04T11:37:40.845+01:002010-06-04T11:37:40.845+01:00I tried counselling after a traumatic time last ye...I tried counselling after a traumatic time last year, I felt as though I was not being listened to and the ultimate insult was being told in the middle of talking that my time was up and come back again in two weeks. I think I would rather cry on a friends shoulder who knows me better than a stranger can and doesn't see me as an inconvenience to their time.Sagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01005047450040559399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-23103889451374561212010-06-03T14:02:43.387+01:002010-06-03T14:02:43.387+01:00I would agree with you, but I need to talk with my...I would agree with you, but I need to talk with my counsellor first to see what I'm really, truly feeling deep inside....Nota Benehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969705852180234416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-91629496227382982262010-06-02T19:14:11.462+01:002010-06-02T19:14:11.462+01:00Counselling helped to get me through some difficul...Counselling helped to get me through some difficult times in my life. I was able to speak about myself without having to worry about the effect on someone else. The stiff upper lip idea of long ago may be alright for some. But I needed a real person to listen.Fredahttp://www.freda.org.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-51633034358636881722010-06-01T22:51:19.683+01:002010-06-01T22:51:19.683+01:00I totally agree with you Ken.I totally agree with you Ken.Troyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05279890687481412751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-35673068643676476642010-05-30T19:21:03.409+01:002010-05-30T19:21:03.409+01:00Thanks for your comment on my blog, Ken. Whilst I ...Thanks for your comment on my blog, Ken. Whilst I agree that, in some cases, counselling training is not good and counsellors are not professional, I'm not too impressed at having my work described as a 'pseudo-career' so you are not off the hook yet! ;)Jennytchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621488409334115930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-82426127590705528952010-05-30T05:45:15.115+01:002010-05-30T05:45:15.115+01:00I agree with you Ken about counselling :-)
Lifes ...I agree with you Ken about counselling :-)<br /><br />Lifes to short to worry about it ;-)<br /><br />WizzAn English Shepherdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17538962642970952214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-60506281432805350922010-05-29T23:41:08.112+01:002010-05-29T23:41:08.112+01:00I say do whatever you need to do to get yourself o...I say do whatever you need to do to get yourself on a positive track. If counseling would help then by all means...get professional help. Also drugs can be of help too...prescribed by the doctor of course. And taken as directed. And don't be afraid to ask for help. That can make all the difference.<br />Hugs<br />SueAnnSueannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299288406218968621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-22876477612178531622010-05-29T23:26:33.554+01:002010-05-29T23:26:33.554+01:00You all have good points, Jennyta's being the ...You all have good points, Jennyta's being the most revealing of why counselling is a necessary part of life for the hard world we live in these days.We all have hard things to deal with, mostly we get on with it, most of us are insulated from the real hardships of life so feel no need.<br />We need to teach kids better coping mechanisms for living, it used to happen once as Bernard says, it doesn't seem to these days.Sometimes counsellors have to help people learn those ways of dealing with life they weren't taught, sometimes deal with trauma the like of which none of us have experienced or are even likely too.<br />Don't knock it just because you don't have the need yourself.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-2826137428026055102010-05-29T22:21:46.991+01:002010-05-29T22:21:46.991+01:00I think this is a rather simplistic view of counse...I think this is a rather simplistic view of counselling. Counselling and psychotherapy has helped many people through difficult times in their lives and is often a preferable alternative to anti-depressants or tranquillizers. Yes, there are indeed, people who are strong enough to deal with what life throws at them without such help, but does that mean that those who are not should be criticized and belittled? <br />My elder son, who was in the army, suffered from PTSD after being in Kosova and Bosnia and was offered counselling, but of course, the prevalent view in the forces is 'We're men and we just get on with it' so after one session, he stopped going. I often wonder if, had he persevered with the therapy, he might not have committed suicide last year.Jennytchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621488409334115930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4941930385963521365.post-26961066933370138782010-05-29T22:09:45.939+01:002010-05-29T22:09:45.939+01:00I think you are exactly right.
So many people are ...I think you are exactly right.<br />So many people are afraid of living.<br />Yes, give help where help is needed, but not at "Every fall at every fence". <br />I was unfortunately burgled a couple of years ago and, yes, I was asked if I wanted "counselling".<br />No, thank you.<br />No. <br />I like you was brought up during and after the war: we were taught, or shown how to deal with loss, hardship, bereavement and much more, we supported each other and supported ourselves.<br />What have we now? A "cotton wool society" for "cotton wool" people.<br />As always Ken, spot on.<br />Regards.....BernardBernardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09024557597864373705noreply@blogger.com